Monthly Archives: November 2013

Turning Stage Fright Into Stage Might

By Peter Jeff
The Leadership Mints Guy

Here’s an idea to help better endure stage fright. Reading time: 4:05

        For the first time in your career you will be making a company-wide presentation to the largest audience you have ever faced. Sure, you’re nervous. Maybe even a little scared.

Astronaut Gus Grissom (center) flanked by Glenn (left) and Alan Shepard (right)

Astronaut Gus Grissom (center) flanked by John Glenn (left) and Alan Shepard (right)

          You know your material. You spent more than a month researching, writing and rehearsing. Yet now –two hours from show time —the butterflies in your stomach are tearing you apart. (WTF!)

         Your heart’s thumping. Your lips are quivering.  Your voice is quavering. Your head is swirling. Your knees are knocking. Your palms are sweating. Your face is reddening. Your throat is choking. And your eyes are tearing.

       Whoa there Mealy Mouth! Take a breath. And take comfort: You’re not alone.

       In fact, stage fright inflicts the best of leaders but it doesn’t get the best of any leader, especially those leaders as prepared as you.

       And you can take some solace knowing that even the most pioneering and courageous leaders suffer from those butterflies. Even if they can perform admirably out of this world. In outer space.

      Astronaut Gus Grissom for example struggled with stage fright at the podium. “Asking Gus to just say a few words was like handing him a knife and asking to a main vein,” writes Tom Wolfe in his book The Right Stuff.

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Crawling Out From Under Your Skin

By Peter Jeff
The Leadership Mints Guy

Here’s an idea to strengthen your emotional intelligence. Reading time: 3:32

       Ben Franklin did it in the nude. D.H. Lawrence did it under a tree. Gertrude Stein did it in a car.  Robert Louis Stevenson did it in bed. Ernest Hemingway did it standing up. And Sir Walter Scott did it on horseback.

Ernest Hemingway at his stand up desk: typewriter perched atop dresser doors

Ernest Hemingway at his stand up desk: typewriter perched atop book shelf.

      Indeed,  the process of writing is as diverse as those individual writers. So is the process of leading.

      Yet the object is the same in both writing and leading: get into the mindset of your readers or followers and serve their interests.

       How do you more efficiently adopt the mindset of another beyond basic research and survey tools?

        Writers do it with a ritual that begins each writing session; a ritual that signals a conscious effort to change their behavior from the ordinary “me and we” to the extraordinary “them and theirs.”

        It’s a ritual so arresting writers seemingly climb a ladder –step by step –to get away from everything familiar and then they take a proverbial plunge into something new, different, and exhilarating. Consider these various writing rituals to get into the hearts and minds of others:

         Poet Friedrich Schiller would fill his desk with rotten apples. Composer Richard Wagner wore historical costumes. Author Samuel Johnson wrote most prolifically with a purring cat near him.

        Author Marcel Proust lined his work room with sound-absorbing cork.  Author Charles Dickens required his standing desk face north and Rudyard Kipling couldn’t work at all without black ink in his pen. And Turkish novelist Orhan Pamuk would leave his house, walk around the block twice and then come back home to write.

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Leaders Rock ‘n Roll with Feeling

Peter Jeff
The Leadership Mints Guy
Here’s an idea to reinforce your sense ability and sensibility. Reading time: 3:58

      You’ve been stabbed in the back –politically. By a “friend.”  You’re hurt and confused.

      simon and garfunkelWho can you trust –if not a colleague you considered a friend?

A Rock
Feels No Pain

       You want to hide in your office. Slam the door shut (if you only had one). Shun everyone. Especially your so-called friends.

     An Island
Never Cries

      You’re angry!!! So angry you find yourself broiling and roiling in the frustration and swirling and whirling in the exasperation unleashed in Simon & Garfunkel song: I Am a Rock.

I have no need of friendship.
Friendship causes pain.
It’s laughter and it’s loving I disdain.

I am a rock. I am an island.
And a rock feels no pain.
And an island never cries.

      In protecting themselves from frayed feelings between colleagues and friends, even the most effective leaders are tempted to hide behind a rock or bury their heads deep into the financial reports as author John Steinbeck observed in Grapes of Wrath.

      Steinbeck called the rock-hard, walled-off bosses in their offices — “owner men.”  They “worshipped” their data, reports etc. because those hard numbers “mathematics” provided a “refuge from thought and from feeling.”

     But the leader in you knows better: Feelings are the foundation of leadership. Even raw feelings. You can’t lead without trust and you can’t trust without feeling. Continue reading

Feeding the Soul of a Leader

By Peter Jeff
The Leadership Mints Guy

Here’s an idea to strengthen your reading habits. Reading time: 4:24

      In his heyday as the Heavyweight Champion of the World, Gene Tunney unleashed a skill unheard of in the boxing world – a skill that made his devastating punch even more powerful.

Gebe Tunney, Heavyweight Boxing Champion from 1926-1928 reading in 1927.

Gene Tunney, Heavyweight Boxing Champion from 1926-1928.  Reading in 1927 one month before his bout with Jack Dempsey.

       It’s a skill that you too can develop today to sharpen your leadership punch without getting your brains bashed in.

      That skill? Reading the Classics in general and teaching Shakespeare in particular.

     In fact, while preparing to defend his heavyweight boxing championship against Jack Dempsey, Tunney even guest lectured on Shakespeare at Yale University.

      “Speaking without notes for a half hour, Tunney held his overflow audience (500) spellbound, “ writes Jack Cavanaugh in his book  Boxing’s Brainiest Champ and His Upset of the Great Jack Dempsey.

      Tunney cited his voracious reading for honing his uncanny ability to study and concentrate on the strengths and weaknesses of his opponents as if he were vying in a Shakespearean tragedy of ambition and arrogance, passion and purpose.

     His reading of the classics and his study of human foibles through William Shakespeare’s pen helped Tunney develop his strategic thinking skills in general and ultimately played a role in his targeted strategic plan of attack he waged against his opponents in era when all boxers merely thoughtlessly slugged it out.

     Instead, Tunney boxed with more precision in his hands and more rhythm on his feet. No wonder Gene Tunney parlayed his reading reputation into becoming The Thinking Boxer.     Continue reading