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Getting To Know You Intimately

By Peter Jeff
The Leadership Mints Guy

         Here’s an idea to gain EVEN more productivity from your staff.

“Getting to know you.
Getting to know all about you.
Getting to feel free and easy
When I’m with you.
Getting to know what to say.”

—From “The King and I”

        I am convinced that Anna’s  song in The King and I  is the anthem of the most effective leaders I have known.  Those leaders don’t have to study the research that says the MOST important leadership skill is taking a sincere personal interest in your employees.   They already know it.

Lewis and Clark with guide/interpreter Sacagawea

         In fact, the most effective leaders  know it is more productive for them to understand their followers than it is for their  followers to understand them,  as author Garry Wills notes in his book Certain Trumpets.

    Forget the touchy/feeling stuff.  There’s a bottom-line, performance-driven  significance to that getting-to-know-you focus on followers.

    Consider the success of the Lewis and Clark expedition, the three-year, 7,000-mile plus exploration of unknown land from the Dakotas to the Pacific that would virtually double the size of the United States of America.

     Lewis and Clark persisted, leading their team over  the Rocky Mountains, despite hardship,  hostile natives and illness.  They   succeeded in part because they got to know their followers, as noted historian Stephen Ambrose notes in his book Undaunted Courage.        They knew the  “strengths and skills of their men intimately,” observed historian Stephen Ambrose in his book Undaunted Courage.

         Their getting-to-know-you  strategy was the result of  what the author  called “outstanding leadership” … that  “welded the Corps of Discovery (Lewis and Clark’s team) into a tough, superbly disciplined family. “

        They knew “the strengths and skills of their men intimately.”  That use of the word –intimately–  from a prominent historian caught my eye the first time I read it. Then the more I thought about it, the more I understood the significance of that insight:  The most effective leaders do develop intimate relationships with their followers.

Forget the sexual connotation.

        My dictionary says intimacy is “marked by a warm friendship developed through a long association.”  Of course, this is not the buddy-buddy, let’s-have-a-beer together friendship.

        This is a workplace relationship that puts work in its place –in context –with the vast array of outside-of- work activities–from family to hobbies to dreams etc.– that comprises one’s life.

         Leaders set the tone for this getting-to-know-you relationship.  The more  the leader  reveals herself or himself  personally, the more their  followers will follow their lead.  Then the more leaders will learn about their followers — beyond the usual status reports and budget reviews that dominate too many  one-on-one staff meetings

The Leader’s Fundamental Act

       Then when the most effective leaders come to know their  followers so well  they execute the fundamental act of a leader, according to James MacGregor Burns in his book Leadership:

“The leader’s fundamental act is to induce people to be aware or conscious of what they feel – to feel their true needs so strongly, to define their values so meaningfully, that they can be moved to purposeful action (p. 44).

        Moving people to purposeful action begins with the getting-to- know-you initiatives as author Dale Carnegie observed in his seminal book How to Win Friends and Influence People .

     The more you are intimately  interested in your staff — in their lives in and out of work– the more your staff will be interested in your mission;  the  more engaged they will be in your vision and the more aligned they will be in your team’s achievements.

 Today’s ImproveMINT

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